Could any action derived from fear be an act of violence? Is it possible that people around you felt harmed by limiting your outlook to worry and expectation? The practice of Ahimsa is refraining from inflicting harm and creating acts of compassion and kindness. Worrying and expectation can have the illusion of coming from a place of love. Statements such as, “I am worried about your safety” and “I hold high expectations of you,” imply that you care; however, it may be doing more harm than good. This language needs to be examined because fear-based dialog manifests into a perpetual limiting belief system.
So what is the alternative? Creating healthy boundaries can be a great way of avoiding the mistrust and panic-inducing sensation of worrying. I find giving myself a quiet moment before engaging in a heated topic can soften my anxiety. Perhaps try opening a space of support rather than bullying others to fulfill your expectations. Expanding the scope of what you think is best for a person is better than imposing judgments. In times where you feel challenged with your practice of Ahimsa, ask yourself, is my reaction coming from a place of love or fear? Hell, the question itself will give you a moment to breathe, which is always a good thing!